Marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully entered into, can be a slice of heaven on earth. You will do more for Christ, and life in general than you ever could alone. Choose wrongly and you are toast.
Women have been on the short end of the stick, in regards to marriage, more often than men, but it still happens. If you take your vows seriously you are assuming a series of almost unlimited liabilities. A wrongly chosen, professing Christian, spouse can destroy your life with the blessing of the church and the man is responsible.
Let me share a dirty little secret with all those christian women out there who wonder why men are reluctant to get married now a days. In part it's about authority. Even in Christian circles a man has all the responsibilites but none of the authority of his historical counterpart. Financially a wife can keep the couple in a state of near bankruptcy, deny him sex for years on end, and both the church and society will blame him. In the church he will be held responsible for her actions ( unless it's the big " A " ) and will be denied ministry opportunities. If he attempts to complain to the minister it will almost always work around to be his fault( whether it is or not ).
A women can get credit cards and loans based on her husbands income, without his knowledge or consent, but ( depending on where you live) the reverse rarely holds true.
The same type of situation holds true in most jurisdictions if the marriage fails. Women can violate custody orders, deny visitation, levy false accusation after false accusation without penalty and the man is almost( though thankfully not totally ) defenseless.
I have seen all these senarios play out in the last 20 years of ministry. I realize that their are still men out there who are thoroughly worthless human beings and deserve everything they suffer, but more and more I'm running into abused men. Men whoose lives have been destroyed, who are showing all the psychological markers that I only used to see in abused women, and almost no one cares. Each act of abuse by a woman is seen by society as the act of an individual woman.
Every abusive act by a man is seen as being( potentially) the act of every man.
This is the situation in most of the West now.
A Christian has to understand that he is beholden to fulfill the vows he utters on the day of his wedding regardless of whether or not his wife fulfills hers. If you have any doubts about whether or not your bride to be intends to fulfill her vows then do not marry her ( I would tell a woman the same thing on this score ). The pain of a break up before marriage is far easier to deal with than the almost perpetual purgatory of dealing with and attempting to fix an ill-advised marriage after the fact.
Those who used to tell couples that marriage was a sacred institution, not to be entered into lightly, weren't kidding. There would be a lot less wreckage for the rest of us to clean up if couples would remeber that.